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Top 10: Tips on coping with your newbornRex Features

I feel uncomfortable when assigned the tag of “expert” because I’ve had five children. After all, I’m not an expert on all babies and I wasn’t even an expert on my newborns.

However, that said, I do sometimes look at new mothers these days and think “oh, if only I could tell you this or that”. But I don’t want to get a reputation as an interfering old know-all in my real life.

Here, I have no such qualms so I have written out my top ten tips on coping, whether it’s your first or fourth. I shall, however, try to stop short of saying “in my day……”. 
1. Ignorance can sometimes be bliss: I’m not talking about not knowing the signs ofmeningitis or preeclampsia, of course. But I had no idea that having a c-section was supposed to make breastfeeding harder, for example. It wasn’t a walk in the park at first but I didn’t know any different and stuck at it. And, if you haven’t had your baby yet, don’t talk to women about their birth experiences.
2. Have a babymoon: Admittedly this was a new concept to me but one I wholeheartedly embraced with babies four and five. It’s hard to do but really important. You chill out in your PJs, preferably in bed at home, with your little one (and partner too, although he is on kitchen duty) for at least a week. And if you have other children they can join you, but once you’re dressed you’re back to full-on doing-it-all mode. If there’s one thing you do from this list, let it be this one. 

3. Embrace imperfection: The laundry piling up, the dust settling, being in your nightclothes still at 4pm — all of that doesn’t matter. Things will get done. Just not right now and not as quickly as you’re used to. Exhale, let it go and snuggle with your baby. That’s all that matters.

4. Accept help: I know, this can also be tricky. People say “if you need any help let me know” which is a cop out because then you have to take the initiative. But take it you shall. Tell them you’d like nothing better if they could bake you one of their chocolate cakes/take your toddler out/cuddle the baby while you take a bath. They’ll be flattered to be asked and if they’re not, perhaps it might teach them not to make empty offers.

5. Forget putting your baby in proper clothes: I did this for the first few months (but maybe that’s because I’m lazy). Those teeny pairs of jeans look so cute but avoid at all costs. Babies need changing with alarming regularity and really, you don’t need to give yourself more work. Plus, I never thought proper clothes looked all that soft for little ones. Babies in white babygros with a knitted cardigan, on the other hand, look lovely.

6. Go to National Childbirth Trust antenatal classes: NCT classes are not populated by placenta eating, natural birthing hippies, at least not round my way. Mothers who join them seem to form such tight knit groups that trying to infiltrate is harder than joining the Freemasons. You will meet other mothers everywhere but having friends with babies very close in age, at least at first, is priceless. Avoid competitive mums though.

7. Dismiss 99% of all advice: Apart from this list, obviously. It is all very well people telling you to “leave the baby to cry” but it’s not them standing there with leaky breasts and tears streaming down their face. Do it your way (which could also mean leaving the baby to cry). You’re not a perfect mum (who is?) but you’re the perfect mum for your baby. Repeat it under your breath as a mantra.

8. Don’t get your baby weighed too often: I made this mistake at first. You feel so good when baby puts on nearly a pound (a pound!) in a week, especially if it’s thanks to your boobs. But a paediatrician advised me that monthly visits to the baby clinic are enough because you get too much “noise” on the chart otherwise (they will put on more weight some weeks than others, it’s the overall pattern that counts apparently). Obviously go if you have a question or concern but you know if your baby is thriving.

9. Breastfeed: Controversial, I realise, but I can’t ignore it. It was probably one of the best things I have ever done. It wasn’t easy. My nipples felt like they were trapped in a red hot vice for what felt like hours at first. Apart from all the well documented benefits, it means you have to slow down to baby’s pace. Don’t be afraid to use all the advice there is. With my fifth baby I had to enlist a breast feeding counsellor’s help. If you don’t want to do it, or can’t do it, that’s fine too. Your baby will still thrive.

10. Enjoy it: It’s corny but oh so true that this time really does go by so quickly. I don’t want any more children, but if I could have a superpower I’d choose to travel back in time to when mine were babies. I would worry less, choose who I spent my precious time with more wisely but I really wouldn’t change much. I snuggled lots and the housework built up but I enjoyed them so much.

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Kate Middleton and Prince William welcomed a baby boy today. The birth of the new heir was announced by Kensington Palace after more than 14 hours of labor.

“Her Royal Highness The Duchess of Cambridge was safely delivered of a son at 4.24 p.m.,” the palace said in a statement. “The baby weighs 8 lbs. 6 oz. The Duke of Cambridge was present for the birth.”

“The queen, The Duke of Edinburgh, The Prince of Wales, The Duchess of Cornwall, Prince Harry and members of both families have been informed and are delighted with the news,” the statement said. “Her Royal Highness and her child are both doing well and will remain in hospital overnight.”

The newborn is third in line to the British throne after its grandfather, Prince Charles, and father, Prince William. The reigning monarch, Queen Elizabeth II, has been on the throne 61 years. The baby is the queen’s third great-grandchild.

The world’s intense interest in the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge’s real-life fairy tale extended to Middleton’s pregnancy and the baby long before it was born.

“You have this gorgeous young couple,” ABC News royal contributor Victoria Murphy told ABCNews.com. “He’s a prince and she’s a commoner, and they get married and this is their first baby — so it’s like the completion of the fairy tale, and I think people find that really fascinating.

“There’s a lot of fascination internationally in the British royal family just because it’s such an established institution and people find it quite quaint,” Murphy said. “People are just generally really curious about it because it’s not something that exists in every country.”

Every moment leading up to the delivery has been closely scrutinized, including the royal bump, her pregnancy fashion and every baby-store shopping trip.

“It’s the fascination and joy everybody feels when a baby is born and then, for British people certainly, the renewal of the monarchy,” Robert Lacey, author of the book “Majesty,” told ABCNews.com.

“We know that this new baby … is our sovereign who will be our figurehead by the end of this century, maybe even into the next century,” he said.

The British Parliament is changing a 300-year-old law so that William and Kate’s firstborn, regardless of gender, would be the heir to the throne.

Queen Elizabeth II was only person eligible to be monarch because her father had no male children.

This birth marks the first time in almost 120 years that a reigning monarch, Queen Elizabeth II, 87, is alive at the same time as three generations of heirs: Prince Charles, 64, Prince William, 31, and, now, the latest addition to the family.

The infant will someday be the monarch of 16 sovereign states and commander of the British Army, among having other royal responsibilities.

“This new baby physically represents the mixture of history and new blood coming in, and the promise,” Lacey said.

The roller coaster-like relationship between the public and the royal family is at a high point right now, thanks, in great part, to Middleton and her grounded nature, Lacey said.

“You have to strike a balance between the dignities and traditions of the family and the monarchy with something new, and she’s got that something new,” Lacey said. “I think it’s freshness, it’s energy, it’s directness, it’s honesty. It’s coming from a hardworking family which, to use an English expression, pulled itself up by its bootstraps.”

The royal couple announced the pregnancy Dec. 3, 2012, when the duchess, 31, was admitted to King Edward VII Hospital in central London with hyperemesis gravidarum, an acute morning sickness that requires supplementary hydration and nutrients.

Royal babies have typically been born within a year of marriage. Princess Diana gave birth to William 11 months after her wedding and the queen gave birth to Prince Charles six days before her first wedding anniversary.

Prince William and Kate were married April 29, 2011.

“I think this is something they’ve had in their minds that they really wanted to do and they’re so excited that it’s happening,” Murphy said. “They’ve got friends who have kids, they’re at a really great age, they’ve been together for a long time, they’re still young enough to have lots of energy. I think both of them are just really, really excited about becoming parents.”

It is widely expected that the new parents will strive for normalcy in their child’s life, much like the prince’s late mother, Princess Diana, instilled in her two sons, William and Harry. Diana famously made it a point of taking her boys beyond the palace walls for outings to the movies, amusement parks and McDonald’s.

She also involved them in her charity work and famously took her young sons on a visit to a homeless shelter in 1996, the year before she died in a car accident. William is still involved with the shelter.

“She played a huge part in my life and Harry’s growing up in how we saw things and how we experienced things,” Prince William told ABC News last year of his mother. “She very much wanted to get us to see the role in this of real life and I can’t thank her enough for that because reality bites in a big way and it was one of the biggest lessons I learned, is just how lucky and privileged how many of us are.”

Such an attitude will likely influence the way William and Kate raise their new baby and future ruler.

“The baby is going to be a different sort of leader of the country in that the whole essence of the royal family nowadays succeeds or fails on its ability to communicate with the rest of the population,” Lacey said.

“We’re not looking for inspired, divine leadership. We’re looking for common sense and humanity,” Lacey said

“I think that will be the priority for the parents, to give the child the most normal possible upbringing not only for its own good, but for the good of the job it’s got to do in the future. It’s got to have the common touch.”

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