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Hi can any1 help me?
Im 26 years old an have been using laxative to try and control my weight for a year or so now. I was anorexic afew years ago and with the help of my lovely family and friends i recovered. at my lowest i weighed about 6 and half stone. I got to a safe weight and felt great but then i felt i got too big again goin up to about 9 and a half stone. Im 5ft 7 so even thats not to heavy really but i felt massive! soooo… i went on a calorie controlled diet and started takin laxatives, the weight started droppin off n i was thrilled!i thought id just stop takin them when i got to a weight i felt more comfortable with but found i couldnt stop. i have tried but i feel so bloated and podgy when i dont take em for more than afew hours. I probably take about 20 tablets a day. i put weight on so easily and im scared when i stop taking them the pounds will pile back on and to be honest it terrifys me!!i currently weigh just over 8 stone and feel happy enough with that (although loosing more would be fab in my head) i weigh myself every morning and if i put a bit on it affects my mood for the day, if i loose im happy as can be! i eat relativly normally now, cereal for brekkie, salads for dinner and a meat and veg for example for tea, when im eating im just thinking to myself its ok cos i will get rid of it all from my body with the laxatives. I actually love eating and cooking.
i really really want to get off them tho, id love to be normal but just cant bear the thought of gaining weight. My boyfriend knows all about what i do to myself. I thought id done well keeping it my secret, until he told me he knew everything. He the best support in the world and would do anything to help me. im surprised he aint run a mile by now! this brings me to the next thing…. i stopped taking the contraceptive pill after being on it for 8 years, about 9 months ago and i havent had a period since. we really want a baby and have done several tests but nothin is happening. i know this is all down to how i abuse my body. When i stop taking laxatives and i get back to normal and i have periods again i know we’ll have a miles better chance of conceiving. I just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel at the moment… Please help me??!!! thank-u xx
ps – sorry this had turned into an essay!!! i was only going to write afew words bit now im in tears pouring my heart out to any1 who’ll listen!! 

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WICKED

My father gave her to me, as a gift from God above,
Who would know a Step-Mother,
is someone you can really love.
I shall call her mother,
the name that suits her best;
Although my veins are not of her blood, She surpassed all the rest.
She loves and understands me,
and of course is my Best Friend,
She is soft, and kind, and loving, until our journey, here, shall come to an end.
The Lord gave her to me,
She’s my comfort zone,
The Lord knows every need of his children,
and that I needed to be in taught in a new tone.
Quite a few heartaches for both my new mom and me,
We were put together for a reason, even if we cannot see.
We had both lost someone dear to us, and with God’s sweet guiding kiss,
He put together a family,
so we could love the ones,
that together, we missed.
Mother, I am sorry that you suffered all the strife in your life,
But God had a plan for me and you,
and made you my father’s wife.
I think about a little girl who’s mother’s love she would have missed,
And I feel the tears she felt,
when it was her brow you kissed.
I cannot say enough for all the times you cared,
Thank you for the tender moments that together we can now share.
My Mother she will be, forever and ever again,
She’s my shining Angel and most of all, forever, my friend.

© Donetta Davis

STEP

Although you’re not my birth Dad,
You’ve loved me since I was small,

The road has not always been easy,
I’m sure at times you’ve wondered,
how you even got here at all,

There may have been times when I
was distant,
Resenting you because you weren’t
my ‘real’ Dad,

And when the going got real rough at times,
I’m sure you felt you’d been had,

But time is the great healer,
She’s patient and loving and kind,

One day I woke up from my slumber,
And with you, I just changed my mind,

I decided you weren’t such a bad guy,
You really seemed like you cared,

You seemed to make Mommy so happy,
Perhaps I could open my heart just a wee
little bit, a wee little bit if I dared,

You stood there with arms wide open,
When I decided to take ‘the chance’,

It seemed so natural and made such sense,
Like a lovely, well-choreographed dance,

You never held it against me,
Those early days when I wasn’t so sure,

And when you hold me so close and so dear,
I now know our love is real and pure.

Written for Audrey Rose, by Mommy

 

FAM

Planning for remarriage

A marriage that brings with it children from a previous marriage presents many challenges. Such families should consider three key issues as they plan for remarriage:

  • Financial and living arrangements. Adults should agree on where they will live and how they will share their money. Most often partners embarking on a second marriage report that moving into a new home, rather than one of the partner’s prior residences, is advantageous because the new environment becomes “their home.” Couples also should decide whether they want to keep their money separate or share it. Couples who have used the “one-pot” method generally reported higher family satisfaction than those who kept their money separate.
  • Resolving feelings and concerns about the previous marriage. Remarriage may resurrect old, unresolved anger and hurts from the previous marriage, for adults and children. For example, hearing that her parent is getting remarried, a child is forced to give up hope that the custodial parents will reconcile. Or a woman may exacerbate a stormy relationship with her ex-husband, after learning of his plans to remarry, because she feels hurt or angry.
  • Anticipating parenting changes and decisions. Couples should discuss the role the stepparent will play in raising their new spouse’s children, as well as changes in household rules that may have to be made. Even if the couple lived together before marriage, the children are likely to respond to the stepparent differently after remarriage because the stepparent has now assumed an official parental role.

Marriage quality

While newlywed couples without children usually use the first months of marriage to build on their relationship, couples with children are often more consumed with the demands of their kids.

Young children, for example, may feel a sense of abandonment or competition as their parent devotes more time and energy to the new spouse. Adolescents are at a developmental stage where they are more sensitive to expressions of affection and sexuality, and may be disturbed by an active romance in their family.

Couples should make priority time for each other, by either making regular dates or taking trips without the children.

Parenting in stepfamilies

The most difficult aspect of stepfamily life is parenting. Forming a stepfamily with young children may be easier than forming one with adolescent children due to the differing developmental stages.

Adolescents, however, would rather separate from the family as they form their own identities.

Recent research suggests that younger adolescents (age 10-14) may have the most difficult time adjusting to a stepfamily. Older adolescents (age 15 and older) need less parenting and may have less investment in stepfamily life, while younger children (under age 10) are usually more accepting of a new adult in the family, particularly when the adult is a positive influence. Young adolescents, who are forming their own identities tend to be a bit more difficult to deal with.

Stepparents should at first establish a relationship with the children that is more akin to a friend or “camp counselor,” rather than a disciplinarian. Couples can also agree that the custodial parent remain primarily responsible for control and discipline of the children until the stepparent and children develop a solid bond.

Until stepparents can take on more parenting responsibilities, they can simply monitor the children’s behavior and activities and keep their spouses informed.

Families might want to develop a list of household rules. These may include, for example, “We agree to respect each family member” or “Every family member agrees to clean up after him or herself.”

Stepparent-child relations

While new stepparents may want to jump right in and to establish a close relationship with stepchildren, they should consider the child’s emotional status and gender first.

Both boys and girls in stepfamilies have reported that they prefer verbal affection, such as praises or compliments, rather than physical closeness, such as hugs and kisses. Girls especially say they’re uncomfortable with physical shows of affection from their stepfather. Overall, boys appear to accept a stepfather more quickly than girls.

Nonresidential parent issues

After a divorce, children usually adjust better to their new lives when the parent who has moved out visits consistently and has maintained a good relationship with them.

But once parents remarry, they often decrease or maintain low levels of contact with their children. Fathers appear to be the worst perpetrators: On average, dads drop their visits to their children by half within the first year of remarriage.

The less a parent visits, the more a child is likely to feel abandoned. Parents should reconnect by developing special activities that involve only the children and parent.

Parents shouldn’t speak against their ex-spouses in front of the child because it undermines the child’s self-esteem and may even put the child in a position of defending a parent.

Under the best conditions, it may take two to four years for a new stepfamily to adjust to living together. And seeing a psychologist can help the process can go more smoothly.

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Diwali 2014 HD Greetings With Poems Romantic Word Free Download

Happy Diwali Poems

The clear blue sky,

The scent of flowers,
The colours of Rangoli,
And the sound of crackers.
The gifts and sweets from dear ones,
And the getting of their love,
The light of the candles below,
And the dazzling fireworks up above.
Lighting lamps at our homes,
Making the less fortunate smile,
Putting on new apparels,
Show our friends some style.
Paying respects to the gods, 
And decorating for them the thali, 
This is what the occasion is all about,
This is the spirit of Deepavali. 

The sweet smell of flowers

The array of colors
Diwali is here
Firecrackers are heard
Candles are lit
Children play
Presents are given
We pray to the gods
Diwali is here.

Dunes of vapors from crackers rise,
Engulf, as odorous airs resound
Effusing joys to all abound
Pearls of gleams in these autumn nights
Adorn our lives else trite
With sparklers that motley skies
As soaring spirits of powder wander
Let us thank the heavenly might,
In this festive season of lights.

Today’s the `Festival of Lights’ all o’er;
A joyful day for minds and hearts and souls;
And people throng the Temples to offer,
Prayers, resolving to take better roles.
And most of them are richly clad and clean,
and eat such dainty foods and sweets with mirth;
Whilst noisy crackers burst, their lights are seen,
It seems to be a happy day on Earth!
But are there not hearts woe-filled, very sad?
Denied of laughter, smiles for days;
Today’s the triumph of Good over bad;
But what about the wastage in much ways?
True joy is when you see someone else smile!
True charity gives joy in Heavenly style.

Joy, Joy, Joy,
We can play with our cousins
We can eat so many sweets
We can fire crackers
We can worship Goddess Lakshmi because
It is Diwali
Happy Diwali

As echelons of zillion lights adorn,
and echoes of triumph and thunder swarm,
watching even a tiny gleam perform,
devouring ill,
sparkling joy despite forlorn,
exhorts a hearty & happy year merely born

TEETH

My sons teeth are awful he has cavities in all his front 4 teeth as far as I can see his bottom ones are fine but my view of the rest at the top is not good i’m devastated. I don’t know what to do.

They’ve been bad for a couple months and just getting worse and worse he is only 3 and all the research I can find say he is going to have to have them pulled, how can a 3 year old go 5 years with no front teeth.

They get brushed twice a day but not for long he doesn’t mind his teeth being brushed on the bottom but won’t ever let me get to the top ones never has done and now this has happened and it’s all my fault and I don’t know what I’m gonna do.

I’ve been in tears for days just thinking of it, I know I need to do something or the next stage is them turning black getting infected and falling out.

He already has a chip in one of his front tooth from when he was a younger baby and so this adds to the bad look of them.

I feel I’ve set my son up for a lifetime of dental work and I’m heartbroken.

I can’t let him get them pulled out it’s just not fair, but they’re so bad and I know I’m risking things.

I can’t bring myself to book a dentist appointment. I’ve really messed up. Why did I never try harder..

He still drinks from a bottle at night, it’s his only comfort thing he has, no dummy or blanket or special toy. All he wants is his bottle and he gets very happy when he gets it at night and tonight he cried himself to sleep because I couldn’t give it to him, I just want my son to be happy though? He doesn’t understand why I’ve taken it away, he can’t speak and has limited understanding.

I don’t know what to do, I really don’t. I’m gutted, so gutted, absolutely devastated…my poor boy…..

I just needed to rant. Does anyone have any advice or ever had a kid with such bad teeth? Will he face being picked on with no front teeth? How will it affect him? Omg.

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GOOSE FAIR

Goosey- Goosey gander where do you wander

Down to the forest where the grass is so green

To the goose fair site where all can be seen

With all the smells  in the air what a wonderful atmosphere

Helter Skelter roundabouts and Dodgem cars all whirling about

Mushy peas and candy floss

children screaming as the rides go so fast

There’s Gipsie Rose Lee is reading  your  palms

Filling you up with all her charms

Big wheel so high I feel I could touch the sky

Its time to go as the goose fair lights go low

Then trailer’s packed and off they go

This year’s gone so fast

By
Thomas Sims

MORE GOOSE FAIR POETRY COMING SOON?

When I was a child I remember being frightened at Goose Fair as well as excited.

I remember being pushed around in the crowds, people urgently wanting to reach the next ride.

They did not consider others,they did not use their manners. The need was for them self

This urgency to jump on the next ride,the anxiousness of what if I don’t get on it?

This need for greed overtakes everyone around them who may be in danger of being hurt.

People being pushed aside for someone who doesn’t care.

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